EP 204 Mastering Your Emotional House: Understanding the ’House of WOE’ with the Parent Doctor, Dr. Marissa Caudill

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Dr. Marissa Caudill introduces the concept of the "House of WOE," a metaphorical space representing our internal expectations and the source of negative emotions. She likens life's challenges to earthquakes in this mental house and emphasizes the importance of understanding and remodeling it for emotional well-being.

The House of WOE evolves with age, and parents can use this idea to navigate their children's emotional responses. Dr. Caudill introduces the "Circle of Concern" and the "Circle of Influence," highlighting the power of focusing on controllable elements like actions and thoughts.

The key to emotional mastery, she explains, is practice—being aware of "earthquakes," letting go, and learning from experiences. The episode addresses questions about Dr. Caudill's unique model, the baffling nature of children's reactivity, and the practicality of remodeling the House of WOE on the fly.

 

So how can we use this idea of the House of WOE to our advantage?

Well, picture a big circle - this is our circle of concern - these are all the things that potentially can cause earthquakes within our house of WOE. Now, within this, picture a smaller circle, our circle of influence - this consists of just what we can control. And what can we control in our life, really? The only things we can really control are actions and thoughts/attitudes. Everything that we worry about in our circle of concern can cause an earthquake in our house of WOE, which leads to pain. But we only continue to suffer if we continue to focus on our circle of concern. If instead, we notice the earthquake, know where it's coming from, and decide to remodel our house of WOE by focusing on our circle of influence and changing our actions and thoughts - by "letting go" of the perceived conflict and accepting what is - at that point, the suffering stops and we are empowered to move on and learn from the experience, and take steps towards a better future.

 

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