Episode 97: Handle Black Tax Like A Pro

In this week’s episode of the  MoneyMagic Podcast, Vangile talks Ndumi Hadebe, coach, speaker, and author of “Handle Black Tax Like a Pro.”

Ndumi coaches people on setting boundaries and highlights the importance of understanding the opportunity cost of not having boundaries. She emphasizes the need for people to share love and compassion while setting boundaries, to avoid disempowering themselves and shrinking their world.

Ndumi discusses how her journey of understanding boundaries led her to write her book. She shares that a pivotal moment during COVID-19 made her realize the widespread issue of black tax and its connection to unspoken family expectations and lack of boundaries. 

The conversation delves into the cultural and generational difficulties black people face in discussing money. Ndumi explains that previous generations had little money to discuss, leading to a lack of financial transparency in families. This culture has persisted, making it difficult for current generations to talk about money openly. She also highlights how not being taught boundaries as children impacts one's ability to set boundaries as adults, affecting various aspects of life, including finances.

She provides practical advice on how parents can better honor their children's boundaries and teach them about setting financial boundaries, emphasizing the importance of listening and validating their feelings . She also how individuals can start breaking the cycle of black tax by first having an honest conversation with themselves about their financial situation. Ndumi outlines a formula for having these difficult conversations with family members: combining truth and love while removing the need to be right. 

This is another insightful episode.

Tune in.

 

During this episode, you will learn about:

02:57: Introduction to Ndumi

06:40: Journey of writing the book "Handle Black Tax Like A Pro"

12:24: Why it's challenging for black people to talk about money and black tax within families

17:48: The wound of being seen and being heard

21:04: Ndumi reads a quote from her book about communicating boundaries with love and compassion

23:44: How to tell if a family member doesn’t honour boundaries and how to handle that

26:40: Teaching children about financial boundaries as a parent

32:19: Can black tax can be a form of financial bullying within families?

38:25: First steps someone can take to break the cycle of black tax

46:59: Importance of being transparent about finances with family members

49:14: Effects of having conversations around black tax on personal finances and relationships.

52:00: How boundaries can help in making money and managing income

01:02:17: Contact Ndumi: https://ndumihadebe.co.za/ 

Notable Quotes 

 

1. "Our lack of boundaries dims our light. It actually disempowers us. It disempowers the purpose that God has channeled through us."
2. "I realized that we don't talk about black tax with our families, actually, which is such a disservice to the fibre of society and the fibre of black families."
3. "Black tax is not really so much about money as it is about boundaries."
4. "I think kids should question everything, including religion, including how spirituality works. Everything."
5. “The more I didn't value myself, the more unvalued I became. So the less I respected my craft, the more people didn't respect my craft."

 

Additional money resources:

One on One Coaching: https://www.wealthy-money.com/coaching 

7 Day Tapping into Ancestral Money Wisdom Training: https://wealthy-money.com/training

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