Stop People Pleasing with Nick Pollard, The People Displeaser

Hey there, Purpose Chasers! Today's episode is all about breaking free from the shackles of people-pleasing and reclaiming your power to say no. You see, it's not about having a problem with saying “no”—it's about having a "yes" problem. We're here to help you flip the script, courtesy of none other than The People Displeaser himself, Nick Pollard.

We’re leaning into the PEOPLE Pillar this month and the theme is Stop People-Pleasing. Together, we're zeroing in on stopping this cycle that's holding us back from the purpose we know we have.

Nick Pollard, our guide through this exceedingly common problem, shares his hard-earned wisdom. From establishing your personal bill of rights to mastering the art of boundaries, Nick digs into the ways we can say no without guilt. As Nick candidly shares his own journey from people displeaser to empowered boundary-setter, you'll learn that boundaries aren't about being rude—they're about being honest, both with yourself and with others.

Show Notes:

[3:07] - I give myself permission to establish my personal bill of rights.

[5:22] - Nick is The People Displeaser now, but this came from an epiphany that he wasn’t giving himself the things he needed.

[7:50] - The problem is the same across all levels - people are worried about what other people think.

[13:38] - When we learn throughout our lives that saying no is rude or mean, we say yes to everything.

[14:42] - People will become accustomed to you saying no and when you do choose to say yes, it is far more valuable.

[17:27] - Boundaries are misconstrued. How are you actually setting boundaries?

[20:29] - Saying no doesn’t need an explanation.

[25:11] - You have the right to change your mind.

[27:56] - Things that are good for you in one season may be crippling in another.

[33:32] - Love means being honest and you have to be honest with yourself.

[36:30] - Boundaries are our own responsibility.

[38:23] - When is enough enough? Nick says it is different for everyone, but instead of cutting things off, turn the volume down.

[48:46] - Nick offers a Boundaries Bootcamp for eight weeks that will be available again soon. He is also beginning a mastermind that you can learn more about.

Links and Resources:

• Redefining Wealth Website
• The Institute of Redefining Wealth
• Patrice Washington on Instagram
• Nick Pollard Boundaries Bootcamp
• @ThePeopleDispleaser on Instagram