How to Thrive in Your Marriage with the Enneagram and the Gospel with Beth McCord

Hey hey! We’re back for Part 3 of our Enneagram series. I couldn’t let this series go by without taking the chance to re-air a conversation I got to have with one of my most popular guests ever, Beth McCord.

You may recognize my friend, Beth. She is an Enneagram expert and coach, best-selling author of multiple Enneagram books, and founder of Your Enneagram Coach, the leading platform for all things Enneagram. 

Beth’s enneagram work is all about how to use this amazing tool through the lens of the Gospel. She has written a book for every type, and with her husband, Pastor Jeff McCord, wrote Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving, Gospel-Centered Marriage. 

Listen in as Beth and I talk about:

• How understanding the Enneagram types as nine different perspectives can grow your compassion for others (especially your spouse)

• Why assuming is so harmful, Beth calls it assumicide

• Two ways not to use the Enneagram

• What has surprised Beth most in all of her work with the Enneagram and couples

Beth McCord is an Enneagram expert, world-renowned speaker, coach, and teacher of over 20 years. Beth founded Your Enneagram Coach and co-authored Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving, Gospel-Centered Marriage with her husband, Jeff. They live outside Nashville, Tennessee, and have two adult children. 

Favorite quotes:

• “The Enneagram is pointing out why we do what we do, our heart condition, and then the Gospel shows us how we will heal it.”
  
• “The Enneagram gives us the nine lenses that all types see through. Each of us has on a particular lens.”
  
• “Each of the nine types are going to have the things that make them soar and things that make them struggle in life.”
  
• “Don’t use the Enneagram as a sword or a shield.”
  
• “Think of the Enneagram as a flashlight or an x-ray. It is pointing out what is there or what is broken. The x-ray cannot heal you. It just exposes what is wrong and needs healing.”
  
• “The Enneagram is this great amazing tool but it’s the Gospel that transforms it.”
  
• “It means you have resources and the Gospel is always there to heal and restore when we are willing to surrender and depend on him to do the work in and through us.”

Teaching Series from Remaining You While Raising Them: Habits

          The Power of Identity with Our Actions (43:47)

Links to great things we discussed: 

• Beth McCord Website

• Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving, Gospel-Centered Marriage

• Becoming Us

• Beth McCord Instagram

• The EnneaDog

• Guy Ritchie’s The Covenant

Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here.

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xo,

Alli