How to Not Be Defined By Our Pain with Shauna Niequist

Are you reeling from the extraordinary changes we’ve experienced over the past two years in one way or another? (My hand is raised over here for sure!)

Today, the amazing  Shauna Niequist joins me to discuss her book, I Guess I Haven’t Learned That Yet, and share her story of finding herself after a tough season. I don’t know about you, friend, but this book and her message feels relevant to what’s going on around me right now. I hope you find value in it, too. 

Shauna and I take a deep dive into how pain can tenderize us, make us demand less of the world, and show us the good even in the face of what has been lost. We also talk about how seasons of significant loss can act as catalysts to significant transformation in our lives.

Our pain doesn’t define us; what we do with it does. You truly don’t want to miss this one, my friend!

Shauna Niequist is the New York Times bestselling author of Cold Tangerines, Bittersweet, Bread & Wine, Savor, Present Over Perfect, and her soon-to-release book, I Guess I Haven’t Learned That Yet. She is married to Aaron, and they live in New York City with their sons, Henry and Mac.  

Listen in to learn more about:

• The concept of finding your next self.
• The importance of taking care of ourselves, even a willingness to fight for our health.
• Ways to live lightly and be a person who is easily delighted.

Favorite quotes:

• If you feel overwhelmed by the mess that your life has become, don't try to go through that alone.
• We don't change when we are feeding ourselves a steady diet of shame and abuse. We change when we anchor ourselves in love and self-esteem - That’s what gives us the courage to make changes.
• I want to walk through life not dragging around these resentments, grudges and complaints. I want to live with a sense of freedom, with a lot of space inside myself,  inside my heart for possibility for the present and the future instead of feeling like I am dragging my past behind me like an anchor.
• I want to maintain the capacity to be easily delighted. I want to be a person for whom joy comes easily and frustration is harder to come by.
• Pain can tenderize you and can make you demand less of the world and can show you what’s good even in the face of what’s been lost.

Great things we discussed: 

Shauna Niequist - Website

Shauna Niequist - Instagram

Soy Yo - Song 

The Crown - TV Series 

Below Deck - TV Series 

Tick Tick Boom - Movie 

Wordle

Bag All Store

jeen-yuhs - Kanye Documentary

This is the Kingdom - Song 

Ipsy Website

Tarte - Amazonian Clay Bronzer

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xo,

Alli 

www.alliworthington.com/shaunaniequist/