675 - Geoff Steurer on Regulating Your Nervous System, Rebuilding Trust In A Marriage, and Why The Bandage Must Fit The Wound

Geoff Steurer is a licensed marriage and family therapist with over 24 years of experience helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, and partner betrayal trauma. He is the co-author of, ""Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity"" and the host of the weekly recovery podcast, ""From Crisis to Connection"". He has produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses to help couples rebuild broken trust. He received a bachelor’s in communications studies from Brigham Young University and a masters in marriage and family therapy from Auburn University.

In this episode Geoff Steurer and Sathiya discuss:
[03:02] Why overcoming porn addiction isn't sufficient for marriage restoration.
[07:37] Understanding trauma's impact and the need for joint effort.
[10:13] The importance of patience in trust rebuilding.
[12:22] Challenges with prolonged addiction durations.
[17:03] The fallacy of yearning for the past.
[20:01] The significance of trust in relationships.
[24:15] Advice for men in committed relationships about trust rebuilding.
[29:22] Regulating emotions' importance in relationships.
[30:00] Exploring co-regulation and self-regulation.
[31:14] Seeking co-regulation when a partner is absent.
[38:23] Deepening emotional capacity during trust rebuilding.
[39:26] Staying with a partner during their grief and sadness.
[42:21] Expanding emotional capacity with compassion for others.
[47:18] Trust's importance in relationships and the impact of porn addiction.

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