140 - You're in the Spotlight

On the one hand, the Torah teaches that we are supposed to love our friend just as much as we love ourselves. This mitzvah teaches us the importance of caring for other people, how we are to go out our way to make our maximum effort to helping out another individual, sometimes in the form of charity, sometimes in the form of putting a smile on our friend's face, or whatever else may be relevant. And on the other hand, the Gemara says that every individual is obligated to believe that bishvili nivra haolam, the entire world was created just for me, it's all about me.

So which is it? Am I supposed to be looking out always about the people around me, or am I supposed to be focused on myself? And the answer is that no question, I am supposed to be focused on myself. Life is about me. The mitzvah to love another individual is actually about me, because it's my mitzvah relevant to all the people that have to do with me. I have a mitzvah to be kind to them, to love them as much as I love myself. But ultimately, it's all got to do with the starting point, about me. 

One might ask, how can the entire world be created just for me? If I'm supposed to say that, and you're also supposed to say that, was it just for me, or just for you? In our limited mind, we can ask that question, but in Hashem's unlimited ways, He is able to create a world that was created just for me, and also just for you. Exclusively just for me, and exclusively just for you. Again, whether we understand or we don't, which in this case, we can't really understand, doesn't matter, because if this is what the Torah teaches us should be our mode of thought, then the perspective of Emunah teaches us to follow that thought process, whether we understand or not.

So Hashem created the world just for me. That means to say that everything in the world is an opportunity just for me, and everything in the world is also my responsibility. If I have the chance to make a difference in whatever area may be relevant, I am obligated to fill my responsibility and role in that situation. If I have a chance to daven for somebody in need, remember, the whole world was created just for me, meaning to say I am responsible for this situation.

Many times throughout our ventures, our minds and our eyes look around to see what is relevant and happening in other people's lives. And of course the result of that many times is negative, because that can lead to feelings of jealousy, viewing inappropriate things, and even if not an outright sin, just removing the spotlight from one's own life, inquisitively, being interested in another's life - is a waste of time.

Again, if I have something of value to offer them, or perhaps something to learn from them, then that certainly is something relevant. But if I'm just looking because I'm interested in seeing other people's lives, not necessarily to learn nor to help, then we need to remind ourselves of this approach of bishvili nivra haolam, the whole entire world was created just for me. That is the mindset Hashem wants us to have.

I came across a recording that illustrates this point. A father came home to his children and said, "I finally saw it." And they said, "what did you finally see?" And he says, "I was at the stop street and I finally saw the giraffe standing in the middle of the road waving at me." And the kids are in disbelief. And thereafter, he explained, "of course, I didn't see such a sight. What I was trying to explain to you is that throughout our lives, many times we're looking to the sides, almost waiting to see when that unexpected, incredible event is going to happen. But really, that incredible event is not on the sides. It's you, because we are obligated to believe bishvili nivra haolam.