189 Surrender To Fear To Reach Peace Says Relationship Expert Erik Newton

Erik Newton is a relationship guy. He formerly worked as a family law attorney & helped thousands of couples get divorced. As a result, Erik understands the nuts & bolts of relationships and their full life cycle from beginning to end. His expertise in relationships led him to team up with a psychologist friend to lead premarital courses for couples, offering them real-life skills so they wouldn’t need a divorce attorney. Erik’s passion for helping couples get mindfully connected and ultimately build healthier relationships caused him to transition from law to working full-time creating a place where couples can go for information, inspiration and real truth. That place is an extensive on-line resource called TOGETHER, found on the web at www.Together.Guide.

Contact Info

• Website: www.Together.guide
• Podcast: Together - The Podcast

Most Influential Person

• My mom.

Effect on Emotions

• My emotions are less terrifying. My emotions now happen and pass through and I can enjoy them fully for what they are; the good and the bad. I'm less attached to avoiding them. I'm less attached to seeking the good and avoiding the bad. I allow both much more frequently.

Thoughts on Breathing

• Breathing is a great way to occupy mind. I find that focus on breath allows mind to have something to do so that being can be. It's when minds chitter chatter is quieted for a moment; is occupied by immediate experience that being can unfold for me. Often times I'll use breath to calm and quiet my mind; to allow the universe to settle.

Suggested Resources

• Book: Your Brain on Sex: How Smarter Sex Can Change Your Life by Stan Siegel
• App: None

Bullying Story

I'll make a distinction between what I believe is true and my identity's experience of my past. My identity has it that when I was a kid I was a nerd and I was bullied. My identity has it that I was often betrayed by people who were close to me and when I was younger it was how they became cool kids; by beating up on the dork. And when I was older, for some reason I think it was a pattern I was creating. It all fit into this rubrik; this view of how the world worked and how I fit into the world that ultimately I would be betrayed by the people who were close to me and that was a bullying mechanism when I was a kid. The truth is I don't think that's the case anymore. There were experiences and I interpreted them through a particular lense because I have a mind and my mind is limited. The truth is something much greater. My experience through a lot of my life was resisting bullying.