"Marriage & Parenting" Class 4: Q & A and wrap-up, Thames Valley churches of Christ

“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.” (Romans 12:2 NIV11)

• Transformation is the vision which keeps us going through the tough times.
• Scriptures help us to stay firm in faith in marriage and parenting

“Enjoy life with your wife, whom you love, all the days of this meaningless life that God has given you under the sun—all your meaningless days. For this is your lot in life and in your toilsome labor under the sun.” (Ecclesiastes 9:9 NIV11)

• Make the most of friends who can support you
• Need safe people to be real with
• Create opportunities to communicate
• The difficulties of not ‘judging’ one another and struggling to assume the best of one another
• We are not responsible for the happiness of our spouse
• If we want our spouse to change we may want to pray to change ourselves instead
• Enjoy the phase of life you are in and do not succumb to envy of those in a different situation
• Communication barriers between husbands and wives:
  • Don’t let things go unsaid - creates a barrier. Issues and feelings will build up.
  • Quantity of communication will create better conditions for quality communication

“Those who consider themselves religious and yet do not keep a tight rein on their tongues deceive themselves, and their religion is worthless.” (James 1:26 NIV11)

• • Give one another the benefit of the doubt
  • Have the courage to be vulnerable with one another
• How do men feel about vulnerability?
  • Don’t have to be superman
  • Validation from God means do not have something to prove - gives freedom and releases us from fear
  • Brene Brown books helpful
  • Learning how to cry
  • Counselling may be helpful

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