One of the biggest sources of stress on this fertility journey is the fear of running out of time. Time and the chances of success slipping away. Michelle began working with me after three failed IVFs. She was 39 and felt incredible pressure to dive straight into her fourth IVF before the big 4-0. Psychologically it’s like 40 is the end. Why is this? Yes, fertility degrades over time but it doesn’t drop like a brick on your 40th birthday.
The expectation that it’s just not going to happen after 40 creates so much pressure and stress, what do you think happens? It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Expectations are toxic. They create self-fulfilling prophecies. They stop us from experiencing the possibility and wonder of life.
In this episode we look how you can let go of this fear of running out of time.
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About the Show:
I help women and couples remove psychological blocks to getting pregnant. Based on my and my wife’s 10 year fertility journey and the work of my clients I believe too many couples have IVF unnecessarily and that the success rate of IVF is unnecessarily low. We can see how much our mind and emotions played a part in our fertility journey and when we found a place of peace without giving up that’s when the magic happened - we conceived naturally against all odds. I help me clients do the same - remove psychological blocks to getting pregnant naturally or getting the successful IVF outcome they so want.
When I ask women what having a baby will give them they usually say a sense of completeness, love and purpose. It’s our fear of not having these things, a fear of not being enough, worthy that tends to be behind our fear of not having a baby. These limiting beliefs have usually been around since an early age and infertility shines a spotlight on them. Many of my clients have strived for success in their life whether career or other things. That approach doesn’t work for fertility. In fact it puts tension in the body which decreases their chances of success.
The podcast is short does of insight, giving women and couples new perspectives that allows them to see their fertility from the ‘inside-out’. To see help them let go of their insecure thoughts and feelings and connect to their innate wellbeing that knows they are enough and OK whatever happens. This moves having a baby from being a ’need’ to to a desire. It takes the pressure of the process and their mind and body relax into it’s natural flow state. Stress can impact the delicate balance of hormones required for a successful pregnancy.