When one or both parents with children from a previous relationship combined to form a new family, they’re called a blended family. While this family unit has been around for a long time, challenges may still be faced in terms of child support and other complex issues such as conflicting values and responsibilities of each family member with regards to appropriate behavior, stress on the biological parent when balancing the demands of their children and new partner, and communication issues on how to raise the children together.
As a bonus mom, Doctor TK admits there’s always a rough patch to go through. But by establishing a proper communication between each member, the household becomes much healthier, peaceful and stable. In today’s episode, Doctor TK shares her personal experience on maneuvering through the chaos in a blended family, specifically on dealing with a denied request that hinders her bonus son to participate in some of their travels.
Whether you have a bonus or biological family member, you’ll surely learn a lesson or two to appreciate their differences and embrace the strengths. Spread some love by sharing this episode and tell us how you work through the chaos in your household!
Podcast Goals:
- Understand the essential traits to uphold in order to work through the differences in a blended family
Episode Timeline:
- Doctor TK on sharing her transition to forming a blended family (02:45)
- To avoid chaos in her home, she set this particular rule (04:26)
- What was her biggest fear as a bonus mom? (05:19)
- How did Doctor TK initiate a conversation with her bonus son who’s unable to participate in the NY birthday trip? (09:13)
- When the eldest was given a surprise gift, how did they initially interpret the kid’s reaction? What did they realize afterwards? (15:02)
- Moral of the story (18:04)
Standout Quotes from Doctor TK:
- "Kids have no filter, they got respect but they don't have no filter." (03:41)
- "Your emotional tolerance may be different which can cause chaos within your house." (04:19)
- "If you have a bonus child, please make sure that you take the time out to talk to your bonus child and let them know that you love them unconditionally. And if it's your biological child, you should be doing the same especially if you've expanded your family with someone else." (18:04)
- "Allow the child space to actually express themselves. Don't believe that they don't have any emotions; just because you ride on a wave and you're fine with it doesn’t mean that they are. And even if they are irritable or upset, they have the right to not feel good about the parents maybe not getting along. Always remember that they have an emotional response." (18:34)
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