Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen show! If you’ve been following this podcast, it’s been nearly 3 months and I’ve dropped 25 interviews of the 100 Masked Men Series, where I anonymously interview men from all around the world about how their sexuality affects their self worth and how media and pop culture has shaped the gender roles we play in.
When I first started this podcast I expected some friendly debate. I was a woman scorned and I had questions. I wanted answers. And I hoped that some of these men would speak on behalf of some other ghosted guys in my past and tell me what I always wanted to hear. That they were wrong, that I was right and that my feelings are valid and they’re so so sorry for undervaluing my worth. I wanted to restore my hope in men. I wanted to give them a chance to get involved in women's issues. I wanted them to openly and honestly about their feelings, why they do what they do, what their thought process is, and why we butt heads so badly.
During this time I’ve been getting really curious about linguistics and gender - how men talk to other men and how women talk to other women. And this is where things break down, we literally don’t know how to speak to the other, and so we might not speak at all. I learned that there’s a pecking order with men, who’s the lead and who follows. There’s a winner, there’s a loser. There are games, there are rules, there is a fuck ton of strategy. Girls? It’s about establishing relationships and intimacy. We don’t play sports or indulge in friendly competition with each other, we play house. We share stories. We play roles. Not responsibilities. And back in the day men enjoyed women because they knew who was boss, and women didn’t know better so they obliged to the subordinate role. Now in 2021, everything has shifted, and one thing’s for sure - we are all just really fucking confused.
As we close off this chapter I learned that courage and vulnerability best comes out when I express those characteristics myself. I didn’t expect to bring up rape and consent as much as I did in these conversations. And I didn’t expect not to bring up masturbation or sex toys as little as I did. I guess we all just had so many feelings we needed to get out first.
In these first 25 episodes we have real conversations with real people in real situations. Sometimes I can’t even listen to another famous podcast sponsored by a famous person interviewing another famous person in shameless self promotion with the smallest attempt to relate to “regular people.” I hope this raw, informative, expressive, emotional series touches you as much as it has touched me to host it.
Let me know which episodes you resonated with the best, and which ones you liked the least. And if you’re interested in being interviewed, go to 100maskedmen.com and fill out the questionnaire. Make sure to subscribe and I’ll see you next Wednesday with some more episodes of the 100 Masked Men. Amanda out.
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