Hello and welcome back to another episode of the Miss Amanda Chen Show. If you've been following this show I've just started the 100 Masked Men series, and I've just dropped 20 interviews of anonymous men. This week I revealed conversations with three different single men on why they’re still single. If you're a single woman like me, who has definitely gone through the question internally asking, why won’t he just commit, today’s episode is for you.
Here's my take on what I've been hearing so far - there's a lot of fear in making a commitment to the wrong person and getting hurt. So it's safer to just quit now while you're ahead. And honestly, I used to get upset about over-committing to noncommittal guys, but now I just feel compassion. The world is hard enough as it is, and to leave yourself out of love because you think you don't deserve it isn't a sign of a strength, but a sign of weakness.
As I put together some trends in avoidant attachment behaviour, I reflected back on my last trip to Taiwan when my cousins spoke about how guys need to be rich in order to have a girlfriend. And if she ever discovered you weren't really rich, then you'd have to go and find a new girlfriend. How insane is that? Talk about a tight mask to keep up. And as heartbreaking as it is to hear all of this, it really shows much love we are seeking in the world, and how we're looking for it in all the wrong places. I hope you listen to my first-ever monologue episode and let me know what you think!
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As always, follow me at @missamandachen on Instagram for more spicy stories of me and #100MaskedMen. And make sure to subscribe and I'll see you next Wednesday with more interviews of anonymous men talking about feelings.
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