38. How To Give And Receive Feedback Well

In this week’s episode of the podcast we’re talking about feedback. How to give feedback effectively, how to receive feedback well and how to love yourself through the whole process. Koes takes us through Kim Scott’s Radical Candor framework and how that’s helped him and his team have honest and helpful conversations.

Lindsay talks about how we can use this approach in a self-loving way to give ourselves honest and helpful feedback, rather than berate ourselves with self-criticism. Sam takes us through Tara Mohr’s work on how to unhook from praise and criticism and evaluate what feedback is appropriate to take on board and how to do that.

We discuss the idea that when negative feedback sticks to us and really hurts, it’s usually because it’s mirroring a belief that we already hold about ourselves. It’s helpful to recognise these beliefs and to start to unpack them with humility and curiosity. We are all doing the best that we can AND, we can learn to do better.

We also talk about the ultimate tool for improving the relationship you have with yourself and give you practical ways you can cultivate it in your life.

Resources Mentioned:

Radical Candor by Kim Scott

Playing Big by Tara Mohr

Self-Compassion by Kristen Neff

www.self-compassion.org - Website with great free resources by Kristen Neff