Covert narcissism is messed up! It is so twisted you feel like you are going insane just trying to get a grasp on what’s going on. It is so hard to pinpoint and impossible to describe. You can’t possibly explain it to someone who hasn’t experienced it themselves. Trying to makes you sound crazy, even to yourself. So now you question your own sanity. It is mind-boggling and exhausting. Many victims collapse into a pile of nothing and give up. I don’t blame them. I have been there many times. I know that pain firsthand.
The covert narcissist is a master at appearing innocent, kind, compassionate, generous, sincere, benevolent, and much more. To the world, they look not only normal, but even better. They could convince Mother Teresa that they are the perfect spouse. Yet underneath that, in the most subtle ways, they treat people with contempt, disregard, hatred, condescension, disdain, antipathy, and much more. I felt like one minute I understood and the very next it was gone. It was like I was trying to grasp the wind. One minute it made sense, and the next minute I had no idea.
If I was struggling this much to understand it, how in the world could I expect my friends to understand it. So why do we try SO hard to understand? Why do we research like crazy? Googling, reading, listening, watching. I didn’t work this hard when I was in school, and I was a dedicated student. But this? This I was absorbing 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, trying so hard to figure out what was going on and why.
I am Renee Swanson, and I help people recover from covert narcissistic abuse.
I can help you! I offer both group and individual coaching, which you can find at www.covertnarcissism.com
Renee Swanson, Certified Coach and Advocate for Victims of Covert Narcissistic Abuse
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Guilt Manipulation: How a Covert Narcissist Uses Your Own Guilt Against You (Special Throwback Episode)
Q&A Parenting with a Covert Narcissist
What Really is a Covert Narcissist? (Special Throwback Episode)
Self-Regulation Skills for Our Kids
Brinkmanship: The Crazy-Making Skills of a Covert Narcissist (Special Throwback Episode)
What About the Kids?
Taking the Scariness out of the Idea of Divorce: Interview with Eleanor Marks
Devalue Your Abuser
Q&A with Debbie Mirza Part 3 - When Their Image Looks So Good
Breaking the Trauma Bond
Q&A with Debbie Mirza Part 2 - How to Move On
Development of a Trauma Bond
Q&A with Debbie Mirza - How to Heal
Vulnerable Narcissists, a Contradiction of Terms
A Grenade Inside a Tank (Special Throwback Episode)
Seeing Your Own Reactive Abuse
4 Hooks that Covert Narcissists Use to Rope You back in Once Again (Special Throwback Episode)
When I Actually Filed, Part Two
The Bone Dry Exhaustion of Life with a Covert Narcissist (Special Throwback Episode)
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