Covert narcissism is messed up! It is so twisted you feel like you are going insane just trying to get a grasp on what’s going on. It is so hard to pinpoint and impossible to describe. You can’t possibly explain it to someone who hasn’t experienced it themselves. Trying to makes you sound crazy, even to yourself. So now you question your own sanity. It is mind-boggling and exhausting. Many victims collapse into a pile of nothing and give up. I don’t blame them. I have been there many times. I know that pain firsthand.
The covert narcissist is a master at appearing innocent, kind, compassionate, generous, sincere, benevolent, and much more. To the world, they look not only normal, but even better. They could convince Mother Teresa that they are the perfect spouse. Yet underneath that, in the most subtle ways, they treat people with contempt, disregard, hatred, condescension, disdain, antipathy, and much more. I felt like one minute I understood and the very next it was gone. It was like I was trying to grasp the wind. One minute it made sense, and the next minute I had no idea.
If I was struggling this much to understand it, how in the world could I expect my friends to understand it. So why do we try SO hard to understand? Why do we research like crazy? Googling, reading, listening, watching. I didn’t work this hard when I was in school, and I was a dedicated student. But this? This I was absorbing 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, trying so hard to figure out what was going on and why.
Surviving the Holidays with a Covert Narcissist
Mirroring: Absorbing Your Identity to Have One of Their Own
Being Told You Are Too Sensitive
Hearing from Members of the CNG Group Retreat, October 2022
Toxic Shaming: An Intensely Powerful Tool of the Covert Narcissist
4 Boundaries to Implement for Yourself
Where Does the Story Begin?
The Gradual Pain of Covert Narcissistic Abuse
Guard Dogging: The Covert Narcissist’s Justification for Their Own Anger
Intermittent Reinforcement, A Powerful Manipulation Tool
Your Warning System is Not Broken
How Do I Handle the Triggers
Covert Narcissists’ Constant Need for Validation
Covert Narcissists Rule Their Environment
How Do We Raise Kids with a Covert Narcissist?
How Do I Explain Covert Narcissism
4 Boundaries for YOU When you are with a Covert Narcissist
My View on Codependency
JUST Enough Good from a Covert Narcissist
Love Bombing Part Two
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