Covert narcissism is messed up! It is so twisted you feel like you are going insane just trying to get a grasp on what’s going on. It is so hard to pinpoint and impossible to describe. You can’t possibly explain it to someone who hasn’t experienced it themselves. Trying to makes you sound crazy, even to yourself. So now you question your own sanity. It is mind-boggling and exhausting. Many victims collapse into a pile of nothing and give up. I don’t blame them. I have been there many times. I know that pain firsthand.
The covert narcissist is a master at appearing innocent, kind, compassionate, generous, sincere, benevolent, and much more. To the world, they look not only normal, but even better. They could convince Mother Teresa that they are the perfect spouse. Yet underneath that, in the most subtle ways, they treat people with contempt, disregard, hatred, condescension, disdain, antipathy, and much more. I felt like one minute I understood and the very next it was gone. It was like I was trying to grasp the wind. One minute it made sense, and the next minute I had no idea.
If I was struggling this much to understand it, how in the world could I expect my friends to understand it. So why do we try SO hard to understand? Why do we research like crazy? Googling, reading, listening, watching. I didn’t work this hard when I was in school, and I was a dedicated student. But this? This I was absorbing 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, trying so hard to figure out what was going on and why.
Episode 1 - Reactive Abuse: The Physical and Outward Reactions of Victims
How to Save Our Kids During a Traumatic Divorce with a Narcissist
Signs of Abuse Inside the Victim of a Covert Narcissist
It’s About What the Victim Doesn’t See
Two Tools for Healing from Covert Narcissistic Abuse
Passive Aggressiveness and Gaslighting
I Lost Myself to a Covert Narcissist
How Does This Get Better?
Covert Narcissists See Their World Through a Filter of Anger
Two Things You Should Never Say to a Victim of Covert Narcissism
Guilt Manipulation: How a Covert Narcissist Uses Your Own Guilt Against You
What Really is a Covert Narcissist
Brinkmanship: The Crazy-Making Skills of a Covert Narcissist
A Grenade Inside a Tank
4 Hooks that Covert Narcissists Use to Rope You Back In Once Again
The Bone Dry Exhaustion of Life with a Covert Narcissist
Interview about covert narcissism
Just Hard to Relax - Living in a Courtroom with a Covert Narcissism
Q&A Session on Parenting with a Toxic Partner
Shouldn’t I just be grateful that it isn’t worse!?!
Join Podbean Ads Marketplace and connect with engaged listeners.
Advertise Today
Create your
podcast in
minutes
It is Free
We Can Do Hard Things
Unlocking Us with Brené Brown
Let’s Be Honest with Kristin Cavallari
Date Yourself Instead
The Secure Love Podcast with Julie Menanno