f you don't tell me to do it, then it is your fault that it didn't get done. If you tell me to do it, then it is your fault if it doesn't go right.
Have you ever heard these words or experienced these attitudes? Covert narcissists are SO good at dodging responsibility.
I used to wonder why he wouldn’t even choose the restaurant for our dinner. Many years later, I discovered that he wouldn’t choose so that nothing could ever be his fault. Why would he not make the plans for our vacation? But yet he would be so mad at me for the plans I made. He would not make the plans so that nothing would ever be his fault. And yet he would be mad at me because everything was my fault.
He didn’t help do the chores around the house because he didn’t want to do it wrong and make me mad. So he just did nothing! In his mind, then I could not be mad at him because he didn’t do anything wrong.
Blame shifting is a common weapon for a covert narcissist. If you are listening to this today - stop taking the blame for their faults. Stop taking responsibility for their stuff. You are not doing them or yourself any favors. They have their life to live. They have their own to answer for. Don’t let them lay this on your shoulders anymore!!
Clinging to the Breadcrumbs
Why do I Wonder if I am the Narcissist
No Reconciliation Ever with a Covert Narcissist
Why Can’t Covert Narcissists Give in Communication and What To Do About It
The Agonizing Lack of Give in a Covert Narcissist
8 Signs of a Circular Conversations from , Part 2
8 Signs of a Circular Conversations from , Part 1
Covert Narcissists Seem so Genuine
Why is it So Hard to Explain Covert Narcissistic Abuse to Someone?
A Thousand Bee Stings
Covert Narcissism and Hyper-Sensitivity
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